BEHAVIOURS BLOCKING YOUR SUCCESS

Success means different things to different people and is something you have to define for yourself – no one can do it for you. Basically, success is the accomplishment of a desired goal or purpose that you set for yourself, however, you can ask ten people what their definition of success is, and you’ll more than likely get ten different answers.

Success could mean a sense of accomplishment in your business or it could mean how much money you make or how often you travel. It could also mean being the best mother possible to your children or the impact you make in your community. It’s entirely up to you.

A one-size-fits-all approach is impossible.

But, no matter what your definition of success, it is something we all desire. But craving success is one thing, achieving it is another. The number one obstacle in our path to success is ...us! We keep getting in our own way!

If you exhibit any of the behaviours below, you may well be blocking your path to success without even being aware of it:

Making Excuses

Making excuses is one of the ways we self-sabotage. If you’re constantly making excuses about why you can't do something, why you failed or you find yourself blaming other people for your lack of success, it’s time to take a long look inward. Yup, no other way to say it!

Doing It All Yourself

Are you the type of person that needs to control every single detail? If so, you might be blocking your road to success because you are micro-managing things. While self-reliance is typically a good thing, trying to do everything yourself is likely going to stall your success. Let go, delegate the minutiae and focus your efforts on high-impact actions.

Giving Up Too Easily

Life is essentially how we spend our time between obstacles. No matter who you are, you are going to have to deal with setbacks, failures and other obstacles. How you respond to these obstacles will define your success (or lack thereof). If you’re prone to just give up in the face of difficulty, you will never achieve your goals.

Fear Dictates Your Decisions

Fear is an important evolutionary emotion that keeps us safe. Don't be ashamed to feel fear, however, don’t let it dictate all your decisions. Success requires bold thinking and action. There are definitely times where you need to ignore your fear and step out of your comfort zone. (We have a great course on this subject)

Too Much Multitasking

Multitasking was all the rage about a decade ago. It sounded great at the time and you could brag about all the things you were accomplishing. The reality is, you aren't accomplishing more… instead, you’re just spreading your focus and energy out too thinly. Ask yourself if you would rather do five things poorly or accomplish one thing brilliantly because that’s often the trade-off when you’re multitasking.

People Pleasing

Being able to get along with other people is a wonderful trait that will get you far. However, there is a difference between being personable and being a pushover. You need to make sure that you balance your willingness to please and, if it isn’t benefitting you, start saying ‘no’ more often.

Hitting the Self-Destruct Button

Don’t let self-sabotage throw you off track. Stay on course and focus on your bigger goal.

You Yo-Yo

Sometimes you care, and sometimes you don't. Sometimes you try, and sometimes you don't. You are excited about your goals this week, but the following week you aren’t even thinking about them. If any of that seems familiar, you might be ‘yo-yoing’. Success requires consistency. If you want to succeed, you can't be all-in one moment, then not care the next.

Beating Yourself Up

Did you read through this list and berate yourself for any behaviours you recognised in yourself? This needs to stop. Everyone has issues and everyone makes mistakes. You can't beat yourself up for this. If you fail at something, try not get lost in thoughts of ‘I failed, I'm no good’, instead, ask yourself what you learned from that failure and move on. Treat yourself as kindly as you'd treat your best friend.

Think honestly about your life. Take a small step towards achieving your goal. Choose something simple that you can do right away. Then take the next step, then the next…

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